Wednesday, 29 January 2014

The Reality of Being 30

When I was younger, 30 seemed so grown up. I didn't really have a clear image of a career path, but I always imagined that by the age of 30 I would have been married for 4 or 5 years, and would have one or two kids. I imagined having a family home that may not have been perfect, but it would be ours and we would love it. I thought I would have seen a lot of the world, and visited all the places I wanted to the most of all.

The reality isn't quite how I imagined. I didn't meet the man I would end up marrying until I was 23, and I was 26 when we got engaged and then we married a year later. We still hoped to be parents before we were 30 as we had a couple of years to achieve that - but that was when we had the naive notion that reproducing is as simple as they tell you it is in high school.


We did buy our own house just over 5 years ago, but it's far from idyllic! We do love it in some ways, because it is our home and it is where we hope to raise our family, but in other ways we absolutely hate it. There are so many things that are broken, don't work as they should, and there have been many times we've been convinced that the house is cursed.

I haven't travelled anywhere near as much as I would have liked to, but I have visited the places that were at the absolute top of my list. Those being New York, Cairo, and Mexico.


I also remember as a kid that I thought adulthood would be great because I would be able to watch anything I wanted on TV, stay up as late as I wanted, eat whatever I wanted, buy anything I wanted... The sad reality is that having a mortgage and bills zaps all the money away and doesn't leave a lot for frivolous spending. Working at a job that pays a decent salary and is located almost 2 hours from home makes me a very tired girl, so staying up late is rare because I have to be up early to go to work. My metabolism stopped being quite so efficient a couple of years ago - so although I do kind of eat whatever I want, it shows. I do get to watch whatever I want on TV though, and I can come home from work and put my pyjamas straight on because I'm an adult and I'm in charge and I want to so I will. It's one of the best moments of my day.


**This post originally appeared on my old blog and has been imported to Living for the Victories**

10 comments:

  1. Oh my this is so true!! I had all sorts of plans for my life at 30 (I'm nearly there just two more months!) my plan was to have 4 kids by now and be a SAHM. Well I am still working and only have one child! I can't wait to move out of our starter home and somehow convince God to let me get pregnant with a viable pregnancy!

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  2. I can totally relate to all of this! I thought that things would be TOTALLY different than they are now. Hell, I look at half of the kids I went to Elementary School with and see that they have "grown up jobs", huge houses, married with kids, etc-- and I think.. how did they manage to get that (in this town especially) and I only have this and that? The only thing that I can tell myself is that God hand picked the life that I have for a reason and I just have to go with it. There's got to be a bigger picture and one day I'll know what it is and why it was chosen :)

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  3. No one ever tells you that being an adult isn't fun, or maybe they do and you don't listen because you're sure they're lying!

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  4. To be honest, I totally enjoy eating "everything I want", meaning having some ice cream in the middle of winter which my mom would never let me have. And I do think of my mom when I spoon up my ice cream :-) But I agree, being an adult is a lot different from what I had envisioned as a child, not nearly as easy as I had thought back then..

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  5. Oh, I completely understand this entire post! I turned 31 in September, so I'm right there with you. There really is no greater feeling than coming home after work and putting on my pjs (or at least sweats!)! :)

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  6. I'm with you on the metabolism thing. I used to think I'd be able to eat what I wanted, not exercise and never gain a pound forever. I miss those good old days!

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  7. Oh love this!
    Wait, we stop getting money in Birthday cards?!?! Nooooooooo!

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  8. This is so honest! I turn 30 this year... and it's hilarious to me to think about my 20 year old self. What was I thinking?

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  9. Visiting from the linkup :-) I love that picture of yourself as an adult - eating all the food, staying up late. When I was a kid I thought it would be awesome to stay up all night. Now I've done it twice and it was not awesome in the slightest.
    Love the ecards - especially that first one!

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  10. As someone that has had to grow up much quicker than a lot of people, I totally get where you're coming from! I love those t-shirts that say "Don't grow up, it's a trap!" haha. It's so true! I wish I could go back and properly convey to the kid version of myself how hard adulthood is. It would have made me respect my parents a lot more!

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